Wednesday, November 9, 2011
The English language should remove the word “try” from its vocabulary. Or at least I should remove it from mine.
It seems that whenever I use the word “try,” I’m really saying “I say I’m going to do this but really I’m not.” For example…
“I’m going to try to exercise more” really means “I say I want to exercise more, but I'm not willing to put in the effort.”
“I’m going to try to eat better” really means “I say I want to eat better, but I'm not willing to put in the effort.”
“I’m going to try to go to bed early” really means “I say I want to go to bed early, I'm not willing to put in the effort”
Do you see what I mean? Saying I’m going to “try” makes me feel better than saying I’m not going to change anything. But does anything really change?
Now what would happen if I truly commit to something, instead of “trying” to commit to it…
“I’m going to exercise more” really means “I’m going to exercise more.”
I’m going to eat better” really means “I’m going to eat better.”
I’m going to bed early” really means “I’m going to bed early.”
Here’s an experiment:
No, really, stand up.
Now, try to jump.
Go ahead. Try to jump.
My guess is… you either jumped or you didn’t.
Am I right?
Trying is really irrelevant. You either did it or you didn’t.
Trying to do something is much safer than fully committing. If you try, then that automatically means you may fail. The word “try” by definition is “to make an effort to do or accomplish something.” If you make an effort, you may, or may not, succeed. But if you fully commit to something, your chance of success is much greater, simply because of the change in your mindset.
Let’s use another example... you don’t have to stand up for this one!
You “try” to train for a 5k race. You decide to “try” to see how far you can run without stopping. You go outside and start running. You become uncomfortable after half a mile, so you stop. You tried.
You commit to train for a 5k race. You commit to run one mile without stopping. You go outside and start running. You become uncomfortable after half a mile, but you keep going. You keep going because you committed to run one mile without stopping. There is no “trying.” There is just “doing.”
The act of committing is the difference between failure and success. “Trying” simply means that we’re not ready to commit, but we just don’t want to admit it.
Of course, we never have to “try” to do something we really want to do. When was the last time you tried to have fun with your friends? Have you ever tried to enjoy that triple chocolate layer cake? I’m sure you don’t have to try to look forward to vacation. We only have to try things that we don’t feel sure we’ll succeed at.
Making a full commitment to something is scary. It means we put our hearts and souls into it, and that could take effort. But if it’s something that’s near and dear to you, it’s effort well spent. Can you imagine saying that you will “try” to take care of your kids, or your spouse, or even your pet? Of course not! There’s no doubt in your mind. You’re fully committed, so you just do it.
What is one thing that you’ve been trying to accomplish, but haven’t? Are you ready to stop trying, and start doing? Join me in eliminating the word “try” from your vocabulary. Fully commit to making one change in your life that will maximize your mojo and propel your power! I can’t wait to hear about the results!
Posted by Ronni Arno Blaisdell at 10:28 PM